What are your most important identies?

My daughters and I watched the LDS Women's Conference last night.  Addie joined us for the first time as she is 8 years old today. 

This past week for my graduate social work reflexive class, I was asked to ponder my three most important identities that I think about most.  As I considered this assignment, I choose the following in order of importance.  The first was that I identify myself as a member of the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints.  The second was my identity as a woman.  The third was that of being an older adult.  Then we were to discuss how these three identities intersect with one another.  I wrote the following about that intersection: 

“These three identities consistently intersect in my life and “function simultaneously”, (Riggs, 2013, p. 229).   My religious socialization led me to want to be the healthiest I could be physically, socially, intellectually, emotionally and spiritually.   It included become educated, knowledgeable of governments, language and even manners.    My religious beliefs defined what it meant to be a woman and ordered my priorities of first loving God, putting family next and then striving to become a good neighbor and citizen.  It helped define my focus as an older person who, sooner than later, will meet my maker and be judged as one who was either valiant in the testimony of Jesus Christ or not.  I believe that living a righteous, holy life will make one worthy of an ultimate belonging to and place in God’s family in the world to come.  I have read and written much about the establishment of Zion.  To be worthy of a Zion society, one must be pure in heart and willing to prove that that he or she will love and serve the Lord at every hazard and serve their fellow man.  The main premise of Zion is that there should be no rich or poor among them, thus you can’t promote Zion without promoting equality.  That goal, to me, can partially be accomplished by seeking the betterment of all mankind in the social work profession.”

Next, we were to explain each identity in terms of whether these were oppressed identities or not.  You have to consider that every reference to the word, “patriarchy” is considered consistent with extreme oppression in social justice courses.    My answer:

The advantages of memberships in these groups, I feel, have outweighed any disadvantages to me.  I enjoy being older.  My being true to LDS religious beliefs helped me to honor my commitments to my marriage vows and I feel this positively impacted the emotional security of my children.  Being true to LDS health standards, I believed increased both my physical and emotional capacities in positive ways.  I am free of any addictions to substances, gambling or pornography.   Because of a focus on service, I sought to improve others’ circumstances.  One primary interest was in helping children at risk beginning in my twenties before marriage and again in my mid-fifties.   I feel strongly it is possible to be a good social worker and have strong religious convictions.   One of the dogmas I believe in, is that everyone should be free to live according to the “dictates of their own conscience”, (Smith, Joseph, 1838, The Articles of Faith 11).   I have always had challenges to my beliefs and limited persecution.  On two occasions, I was an object of discrimination in the work place because I was both older and female.

That response so inadequately portrays my incredible gratitude for the freedoms that are mine because I know that as a woman, my most important contributions to society center on fulfilling my roles as wife and mother.  Though we were limited to one income for thirty years, and at times could only afford to frost one in three homemade cakes, it was well worth any sacrifice we made.  We didn’t have money for the latest and greatest gaming.  We only made it to Disneyland a few times.  But, to have gathered up my little ones and taken them to Day Care would have ripped out my heart.  To have additional priesthood responsibilities would have been oppressive.  I had plenty to do and I didn’t feel at all lacking for something in my life to feel fulfilled.  What I was doing required my best thoughts, my finest efforts and study, and my most sincere prayers.  When it is necessary to be a working mother, due to unusual circumstances, God has a way of making that up to both you and your children. But, I felt that no talent or potential good I could have been in society or positive attention I thought I might bring to the Church or mankind in general, was more important than this.   I didn’t come to earth to say or do things that would make people like me.  I came to earth to bear witness of those things that I believe will bring happiness and peace in this life and Eternal Life in the world to come.  I love being a woman, I subscribe to the doctrine and teachings of the LDS faith and I am hoping, in this season of my life, to learn and do those things that will better prepare me to meet God.

With love, Vicki Robinson